Hilaria Baldwin recently shared that she was “most likely experiencing a miscarriage” on Instagram. She said she wanted to discuss the experience to fight back against the culture of secrecy and shame many women feel when they miscarry.
Hilaria, who shares four children (the youngest being 10 months) with Alec Baldwin appeared on The Today Show Tuesday to discuss why she decided to be so open about it.
She told hosts Hoda Kotb and Savannah Guthrie: "This is something that has not been easy. I understand it and I wanted to come out and speak about it because it's something that so many people deal with and, as women, we're trained to deal with it silently."
She said that she went in for a routine ultrasound, and the technician noticed the baby’s heartbeat was slow. "I'm pretty sure this is not going to stick," Baldwin told told Kotb and Guthrie, saying she would find out for sure later that day.
She added: ["When we agree to be parents, we have to accept the good and the bad. Whether our child gets a scraped knee or gets their heart broken as a teenager or gets really sick. Or God forbid something worse. We have to realize it’s not all diapers and blankets and hair bows. We have to open our hearts and realize there are going to be hard moments, too."] SOUNDCUE (:37 OC: . . .hard moments, too.)
Hilaria also wrote an essay for Glamour. In it, she wrote: "Even before I got pregnant, I thought about what it would be like to have to share news like this. Having a miscarriage would hurt if I went through it in silence and it would hurt if I lost the pregnancy in front of everybody, I realized. At least sharing my story might help me and other women dealing with a miscarriage to find support. Almost every single one of my friends has experienced some kind of struggle with infertility or miscarriage. I had such a fear of miscarriage with each of my pregnancies that I'd google the probability of miscarriage each day. And yet we're still so quiet about it. For me, this doesn't make sense."